Getting over a relationship break up 10 ways

Okay the break up has happened already.  Whether it was your decision or theirs there is still some feelings to get over. You may feel bitter about their decision or their action which prompted your decision.

Here are 10 ways to help you through it and get back into a real romance next time around.

1. Don’t try to "get even." Even if your partner cheated on you, spending time trying to get revenge just zaps your personal energy.
2. Don’t keep tabs. This includes online. For example, take your partner off your AOL’s buddy list; don’t talk to friends to keep tabs on their activities; and don’t drive by their house.
3. Don’t use excuses to see or contact your ex-partner. This includes not leaving personal items so you can make excuses to keep seeing your ex-partner.
4. Don’t be afraid to be alone. Take this time to understand what happened, and use this time to strengthen and grow emotionally.
5. Don’t live in the past. Taking the time to understand what happened is different from obsessing and dwelling on the past.
6. Don’t try to get involved with someone else on the rebound. If you try to get involved with someone new too soon after a break up, then you will bring a lot of emotional baggage to this new relationship.

   

7. Pack away, don’t toss. Pack away the mementos, pictures, and souvenirs from your time together. Don’t toss right away unless it was a really bad break up. Later you might want to keep some items.
8. Recognize your dating pattern. Are you continually dating someone who isn’t compatible with you, your interests, and your lifestyle? Dating Patterns Analyzer evaluates your relationship and tells you what really makes you happy.
9. Forgive yourself.  Did you do or say things that you regretted later? It’s too easy to just blame yourself. You can’t go back and change the past, but you can learn from your mistakes and forgive yourself.
10. Forgive your partner. Forgiveness is a choice, not an emotion. Forgiveness doesn’t mean that you have to forget or stay with your partner. Sometimes forgiving is making the decision to cut your losses and walk away.

Alanna Webb is a writer, web developer, and lifelong diehard romantic.   Her websites, including LoveStories, have received major media attention.  Her passions include her two Shih Tzus, movies, and reading.  She may be reached by email.

Breaking up is always difficult but one major step to getting over it is to move on and fast.  Make your next relationship more permanent and avoid mistakes in choosing the wrong person.  Http://beromantic.com/startingafresh